Emotional Protection

I got this in the “Daily Om” email offering I receive daily and wanted to pass it on to you guys. It’s important info in this day and age with so many conflicts everywhere.
Choosing Not To Be A Target (borrowed from The Daily Om)
Emotional Attacks

Hurtful confrontations often leave us feeling drained and confused. When someone attacks us emotionally, we may wonder what we did to rouse their anger, and we take their actions personally. We may ask ourselves what we could have done to compel them to behave or speak that way toward us. It’s important to remember that there are no real targets in an emotional attack and that it is usually a way for the attacker to redirect their uncomfortable feelings away from themselves. When people are overcome by strong emotions, like hurt or anguish, they may see themselves as victims and lash out at others as a means of protection or to make themselves feel better. You may be able to shield yourself from an emotional attack by not taking the behavior personally. First, however, it is good to cultivate a state of detachment that can provide you with some protection from the person who is attacking you. This will allow you to feel compassion for this person and remember that their behavior isn’t as much about you as it is about their need to vent their emotions.

If you have difficulty remaining unaffected by someone’s behavior, take a moment to breathe deeply and remind yourself that you didn’t do anything wrong, and you aren’t responsible for people’s feelings. If you can see that this person is indirectly expressing a need to you-whether they are reaching out for help or wanting to be heard-you may be able to diffuse the attack by getting them to talk about what is really bothering them.

You cannot control other people’s emotions, but you can control your own. If you sense yourself responding to their negativity, try not to let yourself. Keep your heart open to them, and they may let go of their defensiveness and yield to your compassion and openness.



Filed under Seeking, Spirituality

7 responses to “Emotional Protection

  1. I really appreciate your posting this, goes hand in hand with a comment you gave me on my blog. I think sometimes we get caught in the moment, and it’s important to remember things like this.

  2. I wish I had read this back toward the end of January when a blogger – who I thought was my friend – verbally lashed out at me because I had written about all the drama swirling in my life at the time and had decided to take a blogging break. His anger blindsided me and hurt quite deeply.

  3. Les

    I do sincerely appologise for any hurt that you felt from my comments alan….at the time I thought you needed a kick up the bum and that was what my comment was supposed to do. I guess in hindsight if I had of included a 🙂 or something like that it may of been taken in that way.
    I have no interest in adding to your probems or others.
    I am glad to see that you are Happier now.

  4. Thank you for that apology Les. I sincerely appreciate it. Things were just crazy in my life at the time and I wasn’t thinking clearly so I’m just as much to blame for this misunderstanding since I chose to be offended and for that I apologize.

    So can we please put this misunderstanding behind us and getting back to visiting each others blogs?

  5. Bastard. Damn your honesty.

    (It’s good to have things back as they were)

  6. Sonja (jackalope) says:

    Now that I have helped settle this blogging feud, my mission on this planet is complete! I feel so fulfilled:) I love you guys, glad you’re all straightened out!

    Seb – You bet, bro! We’ll all stay happier (and healthier) if we remember these points.

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